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Friday, August 14, 2009
The GREAT MARRIAGE for Young Married Couples
by Marriage is a very serious thing. Young couples often do not take it as serious as they should. They may not think about all the hard work, pain and sacrifice that is needed for there to be a successful marriage. Both the husband and the wife should both contribute equally to the marriage. This is done through compromise and sacrifice. The "Traditional" way of married life is not the same as it used to be. Women work now, and they can make more than their husbands. Also, men can stay home and take care of the house. "Traditionally" speaking this is "wrong", but the way society is now makes this a norm or at least "okay". The thing is that this causes problems sometimes.
The problem is that when you are growing up you probably saw your parents in the "traditional" marriage. When you meet someone and marry them (because you love them), and find out that the "roles" each of you play are quite different than the roles you were taught and brought up with. This causes arguments and fights. So how do you deal with this dilemma? Well, the first and best step is through education. Both of you need to educate yourselves about situations like this.
Education is the KEY! Educate yourself about your marriage and your spouse. Also, it is very important to educate yourself ABOUT YOURSELF! Not only try to find out what interests your spouse but spend time on yourself! Have fun with your spouse! Do things that they like to do and invite them to do things you love to do!
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
My wedding day - 8 May 2009
The morning before the wedding
All started well and very relaxed. Got up feeling really chilled out and thought the whole day would be all relaxed. Getting everything ready to pack in the car and making sure we don't forget anything. I remembered I haven't paid the DJ yet and struggled to get onto internet banking. Tried several times with no luck. So decided to phone my sister and tell her to meet me at my mom's house so I can try over there and then go to the hairdresser from there, since my sisters' hairdresser is just down the road from my mom.
Now the hairdresser story was another thing. I email my hairdresser two months before the wedding to make sure she keeps my day open. She still forgot, so had to find a hairdresser 2 days before my wedding. Luckily my sister's hairdresser specialised in up styles and she had an opening as well.
So 10am came and off I go to my mom to meet Maryke. Got there and mom was very surpriced to see me there. So we told her the story and then she insisted we go to her hairdresser, cause she was cheaper. We said, no that it's fine, the appointment was made, but mom did what moms do and got on the phone with her hairdresser anyway. I was very stressed at that moment, cause of the stupid internet banking that didn't work and decided to change things now would just stress me out more and decided to rather use my sisters hairdresser.
My hair appointment was for 11am. So off we went to the hairdresser. Got there, very stressed and told her, do whatever you want, just don't make me look like a granny. The hairdresser was amazing. In no time I was all relaxed and chatting away with excitement. She did an amazing job. I decided to wait for my sister afterwards, cause she was basically there already to do her hair (she went back home after showing me where the hairdresser was), cause I wanted to show her my hair. Paid and Maryke arrived. Loved it.
Then for my make-up, but first had to get petrol. It was already 12h30 and I had to be at the venue at 13h00 so we could do make-up there and Adam (photographer) could start taking photos. Rushed to get petrol and then to my beauty therapist, she couldn't come to my wedding and do my make-up for me anymore, long story. That just threw everything off for the rest of the day. I wanted us all (moms, bridesmaids and me) to have some champaign and stuff while we get ready, but that didn't happen. Arrived for my make-up at 13h00 and was finished at around 13h30. My nails had to be redone as well, cause it got smudged the day before when we did it. I actually got a call from Kendra's teacher telling me she is very sick and has a fever. So I rushed her to the doctor, hoping to get some anti-biotics to make her feel better for the wedding. Just so he could tell me that it is viral and anti-biotics won't work. I was devastated and I finally broke down crying that evening. Neil was amazing and assured me that everything will be fine.
(Make-up, nails, waxing, eyelashes, eyebrow and eyelash tinting all done by Duené at Dischem Pharmacy Randridge Mall)
Well, back to the crazyness. So I had to rushed of to the bank and then they told me they were off line and have been for a while now. Just my luck. Tried to draw money, had problems with that too. So just thought to myself that the DJ will just have to wait. Luckily he was fine with it.
Rushed to the car, careful not to smudge my nails again, and on my way to the venue. In the meantime I was sms'ing the DJ, spoke to some friends from Dubai that wants to wish me luck, while I'm rushing of to the venue. Photographer phones to find out where we were, since Neil wasn't there yet either. Told him I'm terribly sorry, but we're running extremely late. Then I hit lunch time traffic. Arrghh! So I used that time contact the Craig (minister) to warn him that traffic was really bad. He said, not to worry, he's coming from the other side. Wow, I'm actually feeling rushed just writing about this. Was a couple of times on the phone with my mom, sisters, Neil and Christiaan. Man it was madness.
Arriving and getting ready
Finally I arrived at Lethabo Estate.
Everyone was waiting for me. Got my bags out and just threw them on the bed. Adam (photographer) was busy taking photos of my wedding dress when I got there. Meanwhile I'm still running around like a headless chicken.
Adam asked about the make-up and was confused that it was done already. I told him that my beauty therapist couldn't make it to the venue and only told me the day before. So I suggested that I'd pretend to put on make-up just for the photos. Got my brushes out and pretended to put make-up on in the beautiful bathroom.
Adam left the room so I can get my dress on. Man, was that for you a thing and a half. With all the fittings, we always tried the dress on over my head, we never for once thought that we will have to put it on from the bottom, cause otherwise my hair would be a mess. So we started by putting on the hoop and then the petticoat, nope, that's not gonna work and off with everything. We had to put the dress on first, then the petticoat and then the hoop. That was so funny, I had my mom holding part of the dress and Maryke trying to get the petticoat and hoop on for me. Well, we got it on eventially and called Adam back in to take some getting dressed photos and so forth.
Mom zipping me up while Maryke is busy getting us all water.
Liz and mom helping me with my jewelery.
In the meantime poor Kendra is lying on the bed with a fever and feeling like hell. Poor nunu. At this stage I have no idea how and who got her all dressed up and ready. And the whole time I was rushing to get ready, I felt so bad for my baby, it is horrible that she had to feel this way on her mommy and daddy's wedding day. I should've insisted on anti-biotics, cause I'm sure it would've helped. When I took her to the doctor, she was still in the beginning stages and in the end it didn't look viral to me anymore.
Oh and this was fun, not. My fishnet stocking did what fishnet stockings do best, my toes kept on creeping out and what a mission to get my shoes on with this big dress. Luckily mommy was there to help me. After this there was a bit of a gap that I can't remember and hopefully someone can fill in all the gaps for me.
Now for the the shoot before the wedding. This at least let me calm down a little, but not enough and I was so thirsty. So we took a couple of shots in one hell of a rush, while Maryke was taking some shots with my camera in between. Here are some pics.
The gorgeous roses my in-laws made me.
Photos of mom and me and bridesmaid, made of honor and me.
Heading for the ceremony
Great, photo shoot of the chicks done. Adam rushes of to the Venue next door to take a few photos of the guys and we are getting ready to go to the venue as well. It was absolute madness, since we are already late and the ceremony was suppose to start already, but it's okay, cause the bride is suppose to make everyone wait.
Here are some photos of the men in black (the guys).
Arrived at the venue and my dad was probably the proudest dad ever. He looked a little tearful. While we were waiting for the Minister to arrive (he was stuck in traffic), we were taking a couple more photos. Wow, I had butterflies in my tummy. It all felt so surreal. Finally the Minister arrived and we were getting ready to walk down the isle/path.
I couldn't believe it was happening, it was all so exciting and very emotional. The music started, it was Forrest Gump Suite of Alan Silvestri. I told my dad that I was going to cry and he said to just take deep breaths and just try and relax. It was all so overwhelming, but amazing. First Liz and Kendra walks down the path, followed by Maryke and Christiaan. Then it was me and my dad. Wow, the tears just came, but my dad was amazing. He talked to me all the way down and I manage to keep myself together.
Then I saw Neil, he looked so handsome. The man of my dreams, the one I love with all my heart. He looked so proud and happy.
Things was becoming a little bit of a blur, cause it all just felt so surreal and was so overwhelming. I remember my dad giving me a kiss and hugging me, then the minister asked who's giving the bride away and my dad said: "I do". My dad looked very emotional.
The minister started and said that we'll probably won't remember a thing he was going to say to us today. I thought to myself that I will make a point to focus and remember and I did, but now, right this minute, I can't remember much. I just remember it was beautiful, special and everything he said was really amazing and so true. Standing there felt so right.
Well, I think I left writing about this to long. I can't remember much of this very special moment, besides the fact that it all felt amazing and so right. I wasn't scared or worried that I'm doing the right thing or not. I just knew it was. I wish there was someone that actually captured this on their cellphone, cause I decided last minute to ask if my dad can arrange for a video camera so we can just capture this moment, cause I want to remember it forever. Unfortunately we couldn't get one and the ones we manage to get didn't have tapes, yeah, the old ones.
Anyway, time came for us to say our vows. Neil did so well, he said it so nicely. Then it was my turn and I didn't even get to the second sentence and the tears started rolling. It took me a couple of minutes to get myself back together and continue. My sister (MOH) offered me a tissue and first I refused, don't ask me why and then I wanted it. It was so hard not to cry. I basically whispered my vows and instead of looking Neil in his eyes and looked far into the distance, I don't know if it was because I felt a little embarrassed crying. Near the end I remember to look at him and I finished. Wow, phew...
Might have to edit this later... Well the rings went a lot better.
The minister, Craig Smee, did an amazing job and nobody even noticed that there was no rehearsal before the time. We wanted everything to happen spontaneously and it did. It just made it so much more special.
Maryke and Liz watching us put our rings on.
Guests looking at us while putting the rings on.
The Minister took us then to sign the register. We went through everything to make sure it's all correct and then sign. It was all such a blur. I remember wanting to sign, then they told me to look at the camera and smile and I think I was just so distracted that they had to remind me to actually sign as well. Then Neil signed and the witnesses, Maryke and Roger.
Well, that's what I saw on the photos, can't remember them signing at all.The part where we were pronounced husband and wife if also a bit of a blur, but I think it's cause I took so long to write all this down. Then he said, you may kiss the bride and we kissed.
So it's been 90 days since we got married and I still haven't finish writing this. It is all starting to become a big blur now and this is the exact reason I created this blog, so I can remember everything, even little details. So here goes.
Wow, wonder how long it's going to take to sink in... I'm am married! This was probably one of the most happiest days of my life. After the kiss we walked down to the guests and the started throwing us with rose petals and like always one had to go down my front. Well, suppose I can take it out later, I thought.
Everyone was congratulating us, it was quite overwhelming. So when I got to my mother in law, she asked me what I will be calling her now. To cut a long story short, I have always called her Mrs ......... and she wanted me to call her by her name. I just couldn't. So I always stayed with Mrs ........ So any way, I said to her that I'll be calling her mom, mom. ;o) She just laughed, cause she always thought that I would prefer to call her by name. Well surprise! I like the idea of calling my mom and dad in law, mom and dad. It feels right.
I was a little confused in to what happens now, not really, just felt like I was standing around like a lost soul. Then Adam asked when we would like to take photos of just the two of us, before or after group photos. We decided to do ours first and the guests can have some drinks and snacks in the mean time. Everything at that stage was happening so fast. Then my dad came and thought that we are going to go ahead and take pictures without getting some group shots. Well, that is what it sounded like. Shame, my daddy is the sweetest. He then called my two sisters and asked the photographer to quickly take a couple of "special" photos. While posing and told my dad that we are just quickly going to do the two of us and will come back for the special family photos.
To be continued...
All started well and very relaxed. Got up feeling really chilled out and thought the whole day would be all relaxed. Getting everything ready to pack in the car and making sure we don't forget anything. I remembered I haven't paid the DJ yet and struggled to get onto internet banking. Tried several times with no luck. So decided to phone my sister and tell her to meet me at my mom's house so I can try over there and then go to the hairdresser from there, since my sisters' hairdresser is just down the road from my mom.
Now the hairdresser story was another thing. I email my hairdresser two months before the wedding to make sure she keeps my day open. She still forgot, so had to find a hairdresser 2 days before my wedding. Luckily my sister's hairdresser specialised in up styles and she had an opening as well.
So 10am came and off I go to my mom to meet Maryke. Got there and mom was very surpriced to see me there. So we told her the story and then she insisted we go to her hairdresser, cause she was cheaper. We said, no that it's fine, the appointment was made, but mom did what moms do and got on the phone with her hairdresser anyway. I was very stressed at that moment, cause of the stupid internet banking that didn't work and decided to change things now would just stress me out more and decided to rather use my sisters hairdresser.
My hair appointment was for 11am. So off we went to the hairdresser. Got there, very stressed and told her, do whatever you want, just don't make me look like a granny. The hairdresser was amazing. In no time I was all relaxed and chatting away with excitement. She did an amazing job. I decided to wait for my sister afterwards, cause she was basically there already to do her hair (she went back home after showing me where the hairdresser was), cause I wanted to show her my hair. Paid and Maryke arrived. Loved it.
Then for my make-up, but first had to get petrol. It was already 12h30 and I had to be at the venue at 13h00 so we could do make-up there and Adam (photographer) could start taking photos. Rushed to get petrol and then to my beauty therapist, she couldn't come to my wedding and do my make-up for me anymore, long story. That just threw everything off for the rest of the day. I wanted us all (moms, bridesmaids and me) to have some champaign and stuff while we get ready, but that didn't happen. Arrived for my make-up at 13h00 and was finished at around 13h30. My nails had to be redone as well, cause it got smudged the day before when we did it. I actually got a call from Kendra's teacher telling me she is very sick and has a fever. So I rushed her to the doctor, hoping to get some anti-biotics to make her feel better for the wedding. Just so he could tell me that it is viral and anti-biotics won't work. I was devastated and I finally broke down crying that evening. Neil was amazing and assured me that everything will be fine.
(Make-up, nails, waxing, eyelashes, eyebrow and eyelash tinting all done by Duené at Dischem Pharmacy Randridge Mall)
Well, back to the crazyness. So I had to rushed of to the bank and then they told me they were off line and have been for a while now. Just my luck. Tried to draw money, had problems with that too. So just thought to myself that the DJ will just have to wait. Luckily he was fine with it.
Rushed to the car, careful not to smudge my nails again, and on my way to the venue. In the meantime I was sms'ing the DJ, spoke to some friends from Dubai that wants to wish me luck, while I'm rushing of to the venue. Photographer phones to find out where we were, since Neil wasn't there yet either. Told him I'm terribly sorry, but we're running extremely late. Then I hit lunch time traffic. Arrghh! So I used that time contact the Craig (minister) to warn him that traffic was really bad. He said, not to worry, he's coming from the other side. Wow, I'm actually feeling rushed just writing about this. Was a couple of times on the phone with my mom, sisters, Neil and Christiaan. Man it was madness.
Arriving and getting ready
Finally I arrived at Lethabo Estate.
Everyone was waiting for me. Got my bags out and just threw them on the bed. Adam (photographer) was busy taking photos of my wedding dress when I got there. Meanwhile I'm still running around like a headless chicken.
Adam asked about the make-up and was confused that it was done already. I told him that my beauty therapist couldn't make it to the venue and only told me the day before. So I suggested that I'd pretend to put on make-up just for the photos. Got my brushes out and pretended to put make-up on in the beautiful bathroom.
Adam left the room so I can get my dress on. Man, was that for you a thing and a half. With all the fittings, we always tried the dress on over my head, we never for once thought that we will have to put it on from the bottom, cause otherwise my hair would be a mess. So we started by putting on the hoop and then the petticoat, nope, that's not gonna work and off with everything. We had to put the dress on first, then the petticoat and then the hoop. That was so funny, I had my mom holding part of the dress and Maryke trying to get the petticoat and hoop on for me. Well, we got it on eventially and called Adam back in to take some getting dressed photos and so forth.
Mom zipping me up while Maryke is busy getting us all water.
Liz and mom helping me with my jewelery.
In the meantime poor Kendra is lying on the bed with a fever and feeling like hell. Poor nunu. At this stage I have no idea how and who got her all dressed up and ready. And the whole time I was rushing to get ready, I felt so bad for my baby, it is horrible that she had to feel this way on her mommy and daddy's wedding day. I should've insisted on anti-biotics, cause I'm sure it would've helped. When I took her to the doctor, she was still in the beginning stages and in the end it didn't look viral to me anymore.
Oh and this was fun, not. My fishnet stocking did what fishnet stockings do best, my toes kept on creeping out and what a mission to get my shoes on with this big dress. Luckily mommy was there to help me. After this there was a bit of a gap that I can't remember and hopefully someone can fill in all the gaps for me.Now for the the shoot before the wedding. This at least let me calm down a little, but not enough and I was so thirsty. So we took a couple of shots in one hell of a rush, while Maryke was taking some shots with my camera in between. Here are some pics.
The gorgeous roses my in-laws made me.
Photos of mom and me and bridesmaid, made of honor and me.
Heading for the ceremony
Great, photo shoot of the chicks done. Adam rushes of to the Venue next door to take a few photos of the guys and we are getting ready to go to the venue as well. It was absolute madness, since we are already late and the ceremony was suppose to start already, but it's okay, cause the bride is suppose to make everyone wait.
Here are some photos of the men in black (the guys).
Arrived at the venue and my dad was probably the proudest dad ever. He looked a little tearful. While we were waiting for the Minister to arrive (he was stuck in traffic), we were taking a couple more photos. Wow, I had butterflies in my tummy. It all felt so surreal. Finally the Minister arrived and we were getting ready to walk down the isle/path.
I couldn't believe it was happening, it was all so exciting and very emotional. The music started, it was Forrest Gump Suite of Alan Silvestri. I told my dad that I was going to cry and he said to just take deep breaths and just try and relax. It was all so overwhelming, but amazing. First Liz and Kendra walks down the path, followed by Maryke and Christiaan. Then it was me and my dad. Wow, the tears just came, but my dad was amazing. He talked to me all the way down and I manage to keep myself together.
Then I saw Neil, he looked so handsome. The man of my dreams, the one I love with all my heart. He looked so proud and happy.
Things was becoming a little bit of a blur, cause it all just felt so surreal and was so overwhelming. I remember my dad giving me a kiss and hugging me, then the minister asked who's giving the bride away and my dad said: "I do". My dad looked very emotional.
The minister started and said that we'll probably won't remember a thing he was going to say to us today. I thought to myself that I will make a point to focus and remember and I did, but now, right this minute, I can't remember much. I just remember it was beautiful, special and everything he said was really amazing and so true. Standing there felt so right.
Well, I think I left writing about this to long. I can't remember much of this very special moment, besides the fact that it all felt amazing and so right. I wasn't scared or worried that I'm doing the right thing or not. I just knew it was. I wish there was someone that actually captured this on their cellphone, cause I decided last minute to ask if my dad can arrange for a video camera so we can just capture this moment, cause I want to remember it forever. Unfortunately we couldn't get one and the ones we manage to get didn't have tapes, yeah, the old ones.Anyway, time came for us to say our vows. Neil did so well, he said it so nicely. Then it was my turn and I didn't even get to the second sentence and the tears started rolling. It took me a couple of minutes to get myself back together and continue. My sister (MOH) offered me a tissue and first I refused, don't ask me why and then I wanted it. It was so hard not to cry. I basically whispered my vows and instead of looking Neil in his eyes and looked far into the distance, I don't know if it was because I felt a little embarrassed crying. Near the end I remember to look at him and I finished. Wow, phew...
Might have to edit this later... Well the rings went a lot better.
The minister, Craig Smee, did an amazing job and nobody even noticed that there was no rehearsal before the time. We wanted everything to happen spontaneously and it did. It just made it so much more special.Maryke and Liz watching us put our rings on.
Guests looking at us while putting the rings on.
The Minister took us then to sign the register. We went through everything to make sure it's all correct and then sign. It was all such a blur. I remember wanting to sign, then they told me to look at the camera and smile and I think I was just so distracted that they had to remind me to actually sign as well. Then Neil signed and the witnesses, Maryke and Roger.
Well, that's what I saw on the photos, can't remember them signing at all.The part where we were pronounced husband and wife if also a bit of a blur, but I think it's cause I took so long to write all this down. Then he said, you may kiss the bride and we kissed.
So it's been 90 days since we got married and I still haven't finish writing this. It is all starting to become a big blur now and this is the exact reason I created this blog, so I can remember everything, even little details. So here goes.Wow, wonder how long it's going to take to sink in... I'm am married! This was probably one of the most happiest days of my life. After the kiss we walked down to the guests and the started throwing us with rose petals and like always one had to go down my front. Well, suppose I can take it out later, I thought.
Everyone was congratulating us, it was quite overwhelming. So when I got to my mother in law, she asked me what I will be calling her now. To cut a long story short, I have always called her Mrs ......... and she wanted me to call her by her name. I just couldn't. So I always stayed with Mrs ........ So any way, I said to her that I'll be calling her mom, mom. ;o) She just laughed, cause she always thought that I would prefer to call her by name. Well surprise! I like the idea of calling my mom and dad in law, mom and dad. It feels right.
I was a little confused in to what happens now, not really, just felt like I was standing around like a lost soul. Then Adam asked when we would like to take photos of just the two of us, before or after group photos. We decided to do ours first and the guests can have some drinks and snacks in the mean time. Everything at that stage was happening so fast. Then my dad came and thought that we are going to go ahead and take pictures without getting some group shots. Well, that is what it sounded like. Shame, my daddy is the sweetest. He then called my two sisters and asked the photographer to quickly take a couple of "special" photos. While posing and told my dad that we are just quickly going to do the two of us and will come back for the special family photos.
To be continued...
Friday, August 7, 2009
Honeymoon destinations
Here are a couple of links:http://www.computravel.co.za/searchresults.php?recommendationid=6&gclid=COOv8pakkZwCFWIB4wodeUudeg
http://www.bolongobay.com/html/wedpkg.html
Will post more I soon as come across it.
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